I probably shouldn't post about this, but I really need to say something about it. Also, I would love your opinions about it, because I want to see if I'm alone here.
I think a lot of people get upset over stupid things. I say this because I hate being politically correct. I say Merry Christmas, because Christmas is what I celebrate. My friend, who is Jewish, tells me Happy Hanukkah because that is what she celebrates. I don't get offended. It's what she believes. I don't care if someone tells me Happy Holidays, it doesn't bother me. I refuse to say it though. I celebrate Christmas with Christmas Trees and Christmas Presents. I say Merry Christmas because it's what I believe. People shouldn't get offended. If they don't believe in God or Jesus or religion, that's fine. Just say, Happy Holiday's back or say nothing.
Now, I bring this up, because currently people seem to be mad at me for depicting relationships the way they are. My grandmother passed away when my mother was very young. My grandfather then remarried and that women became my mother's stepmother. They had three daughters together. That makes them her halfsisters. Correct? That means I have a stepgrandmother and three half Aunts. Right?
First let me say, that my mother has NEVER EVER called them her halfsisters. They are her sisters. That's it. Sisters. When my mom is asked if she has any siblings, she says, "Yes, I have one brother and three sisters." No half sisters, not whole sisters, not stepsisters. JUST sisters.
Not that I refer to them as halfaunts. In fact, I think the only time I've ever referred to them as that was once or twice when I was trying to describe my family to my friends. Adding the simple prefix of step or half makes it much easier to understand. But for the most part, I call them my aunts because for all intents and purposes, that's what they are. They have some of the same genes as me, so therefore they are my aunts. The are just as much my aunts as my dad's sisters. THEY ARE MY AUNTS. I've always loved them as my aunts, whether half or whole or step. They are my family. Right?
I do refer to my stepgrandmother as my stepgrandmother though. Why? Well, because that's what she is. I am not related to her in any way, so there for she is my step. Maybe it's because I have always wanted to meet my biological grandmother, but I don't think that's completely it. I think it's more because I don't have ANY relationship with my stepgrandmother. She's just the wife of my grandfather. She's never tried to become a part of my life, and I've never really pushed the issue. I got used to not having grandparents. It's not a big deal. I just don't feel I should call her my grandmother, because she's not. My grandmother is dead, and I never got to develop a relationship with her.
Here's my thing, I would probably still refer to my stepgrandmother as my stepgrandmother even if we had the best relationship in the world. Why? Because I don't understand why the prefix of step or half is insulting. Maybe I'm just too young to understand. Maybe I'm just not easily offended. I just don't get why calling someone my half or step something is a big deal. Who cares? At least I'm claiming you as something. I could walk away and say, "I'm sorry, I don't know that person. Never met him/her in my life."
I think calling someone fat, ugly, stupid, or a number of other things is worse then simply saying, "Oh this is my step____." Who gives a shit? If I married someone with kids someday, I would expect to be called a stepmother, because I wouldn't be their mother.
I don't know. I just don't get why people feel those things are insulting.
What do you think? Would you be upset? Insulted? Pissed?
Let me know. Please.